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Social and Cultural Etiquette in China | CHINA TRAVEL TIPS

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  • DIA JIN

    I hope you found these helpful or interesting:) Let me know if you have any questions or if you've experienced a social or cultural norm that was different from yours while traveling in China! – Dia

  • Thomas Chen

    This one time when I was young and eating with relatives and family friends, my parents slipped me cash and told me to pay the bill, and once I got to the counter, my even younger cousin was already in the middle of paying it ๐Ÿ˜‚ my parents were not happy with me even though it was their fault for not sending me sooner ๐Ÿ˜ญ

  • Ben Miles

    These are really super helpful. My wife and I have been hosting International high school students from China for the past 6 years. This summer we are finally going to make a trip to China to visit some of their home towns. We are going to Beijing, Shanghai, Chengdu, and Xi'an. We will use some of your tips for sure. I am going to have to really dial back the urge to say hello to strangers as I pass them on the street ha ha. We also learned from our students that when they are given a gift it is rude to open it in front of the giver. They were amazed how at Christmas all the presents got opened in front of everyone.

  • Sophy BJJ

    How general is this don't talk about government stuff thing? When I was in Hangzhou in July, I went out to eat with some friends and I mentioned that I saw a poster depicting Deng Xiaoping and we had a nice conversation about him, because I am from Romania and my country was one of the first ones he visited in the early seventies. And there was absolutely no problem with discussing Deng and his journeys, life, politics, whatever. I'm guessing it depends on whom you are talking with at the moment.

  • Jeffrey Tong

    (1) ๐Ÿ‘ซ๐Ÿ‘ฌ๐Ÿ‘ญhug hug ๐Ÿ˜š kiss kiss ๐Ÿ˜˜ just BOW as sign of respect! …and OFFER to take off shoes when entering someone's house! (2) Ganbei๐ŸปMy take on alcohol is that it is a business tool to uncover the other person's TRUE motives. (3) WeChat completely throws off our ability to pay at a Chinese restaurant. I visited a friend in Guangzhou, and we went out to dinner. Before I knew what happened, she paid with her cell phone WeChat… something we US Americans can't do while visiting China, since our WeChat (if we even have one) has no link to our bank. Even if we have an account in a Chinese-owned bank in USA, it is a 100% separate company from the mainland China bank using the same name. In USA, I learned to just thank the other person and reciprocate next time. (4) What to bring while visiting friends and relatives. I guess if you bring vitamins to grandma, it's OK! If you bring it to friends… hmmm? Vitamins may imply they are sick. Chinese TEA – it is healthy, and doesn't imply anything!

    US Americans have a tendency to judge quickly, so thanks for your suggestion to not judge people outside your own cultural reality. ๐Ÿ‘

  • Dr. Wendy

    haha so the takeaway is… Chinese people are rude and ignorant in public but unrealistically polite in close circles. lol sooooo my life though! can you imaging greeting someone in china with a double cheek kiss.. haha their shocked faces!

  • Danny

    They actually can fine you for spitting in the streets but because of the rapid urbanisation they overlook it ! They know countrysiders will need time to adjust to city etiquette.

  • Simon Vanhul

    Whut?? no kissing in China? goddammit!! haha ๐Ÿ˜€ I'm going to China in February for 5 months. I'm extremely excited! ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Greg Bebop

    Dia provides excellent, current, constructive information for anyone planning to travel in the countries she speaks of. She really does her homework, backed by recent experience in all of these countries. She is concise and to the point, yet relatable and warm with her presentations. These pieces are well worth watching, and I say that is based on my own recent travels. Thank you Dia. Very appreciated.

  • Benjamin Lu

    Nice work Dia, love the tips. This might be a wild request, but I am actually looking into starting a business in China as a foreigner. If you can shed some light on this topic that would be great!

  • Badtz Mu

    Hi Dia Jin, Do you have any comments on the travel advisory which taken place today? I am concern about going to China for this new job I am trying to secure. I know this is a very odd light and I hate to place you under it, but should I be a concern? what do you think? you can PM me.

    https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/international-travel/International-Travel-Country-Information-Pages/China.html#/

  • Qi Zhang

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  • Grace1 Dc

    So i went to China. Most of you tips from your previous vidoes helped alot. Thank you. I must say you forgot to warn us that they love spitting anyhow, anywhere….. And smokes aloooot. But overall enjoyed shopping and i loooved the street food. Very hot n you eat while stsnding right there. Am a fan of chinese food and i must say i looooved it!!

  • Gabo Prado

    Can you give a tip on how to get a Chinese lady?
    About dinner etiquette its ok if i spit while i am eating??? I mean that is a common thing in China

  • Lifetime Travelmates

    Hey Dia! This is a very good informative video! Will have to check again before heading to China!! Keep up the good work! cheers!

  • Rรฉmy Erraud

    It would be interesting to show the main differences when you travel and chat with people accross China and HK. It's very surprising to see how the 2 cultures are very different

  • Nick and Helmi

    ive never been to china ๐Ÿ˜€ dia! helmi has, these are great tips..i think i always found culture shocks with the chinese because even in australia some of the things they do may seem to be rude but somewhat in their culture it is acceptable, just different ways of whats acceptable and not here may not be the same there.

    the spitting part lol.. its like olympics, even here… just disgusting lol..

  • Travellers Relish

    Why do I find everything familiar hehe apart from the bill fighting part? This is helpful. I feel like am ready to visit China with all these awesome tips you share.

  • Thomas Mcguire

    Hello and thank you very much! I just love the culture and I think you are adorable! I'm learning a lot so keep it coming.

  • Brad Wittwer

    Love your videos. New subscriber now. Very happy that Iโ€™ve found them. Iโ€™ve been to china 7 times now just for fun.

  • Jack Glynn

    Doing as much research as I can because I have an internship over the summer in Shanghai. Appreciate all the tips!! Hopefully I'll remember them lol

  • aragonreturning

    In my culture, when a man sees a woman as beautiful (and brilliant) as you, he will muster all of his courage, and yell out to her, โ€œI NOW PRONOUNCE US MAN AND WIFE!โ€ Then he will actually kiss his bride, as a symbol of his deep affection for his beloved. just sayin

  • Timot

    I was shocked when I saw chinese friends used their own chopsticks to dig the sharing foods/soup. It is gross, not hygiene….pls no offended…

  • Ab Ab

    'liked'. Thanks for this very useful video. Talking about pouring tea for others first, the Taiwanese tend to tap on the table surface with the two knuckles of the bent fingers (ring and middle finger). This is to say 'thanks'. Perhaps people in the mainland won't know this gesture, which is a bit strange to me. Because apparently this has a basis in some story or history. Something related to how a king and his minister went out into the kingdom in disguise and the king poured tea for the underling. Since the underling could not say anything, he bent his fingers and touched the bent knuckles on the table. The bent knuckles look like the kneeling position when touched on the surface of the table.

    It's surprising to me abt no tissue paper in toilets, even in restaurants. More than 20 yrs ago when I was studying Chinese in evening classes, our book had a lesson titled "cesuo li meiyou weishengzhi" (There is no toilet paper in the toilet). A few years ago i had read somewhere that there is toilet paper in some places but they are using facial recognition to limit people to a certain number (two?). Maybe that was experimental.

  • Bryan Widmer

    Thank you,
    Was terrified of my upcoming trip in April to my wifeโ€™s homeland (Beijing China) until hearing your videos. Now Iโ€™m just slightly nervous.

  • KenRobert1

    LOL I am really enjoy watching your videos. I always try to watch black people in China videos because things are a bit different for us as in treatment anyway, your videos I watch so fare are very interesting. Thank you.

  • George Gong

    Funny I always thought it was just me! Now being Chinese American it dawned on me why yes my family for the most part not big huggers either! I married a Mexican American & yes her family hugs…big time! I felt funny @ 1st! I'm getting there to accept the hugging though it can still be very difficult! I feel sad my 3 stepchildren love hugging too! Gotta get with the program I guess! LOL!

  • Eddie Orama

    With president Trump's trade wars, could cause some problems visiting China ๐Ÿ‡บ๐Ÿ‡ธ๐Ÿ‡บ๐Ÿ‡ธโœŒ

  • Akmal Sheikh

    foreigner means some one from not China but in china foreigner means not oriental….this is racist….should we start calling Chinese foreigners in Uk before they start calling us foreigner in our own country

  • Jimmy Lai

    You should also make a video about the manner and behaves for Chinese travel aboard. Some of them are very arrogant; self-centered; ignorance and disrespect local custom.
    They make locals dislike them and they disgrace the local CHINESE

  • E63 E63

    LAST TRIP TO CHENGDร™ I WAS SERVING THE ENTIRE BOTTLE OF MOUTAI TO MY FRIENDS ,FOLLOWED BY BEER AND WINE , WE HAD SO MUCH FUN ,FOOD AND ALCOHOL! Greetings from a Mexican dude living in San Francisco CA.!!!โœŒโœŒ๐Ÿ˜œโœŒโœŒ

  • Ricky recuerdo

    Good Night ๐Ÿ’ค๐ŸŒ™
    ๐Ÿ˜Š Sweet Dream Dia
    ๐ŸŒ ๐ŸŒ ๐ŸŒ ๐ŸŒ ๐ŸŒ ๐ŸŒ ๐ŸŒ jin
    You're so beautiful!!!๐ŸŒŸ๐Ÿ’š๐ŸŒŸ๐ŸŒŸ๐Ÿ’š๐ŸŒŸ๐Ÿ’™๐ŸŒŸ๐ŸŒŸ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐ŸŒŸ๐Ÿ’š๐ŸŒŸ
    ๐ŸŒŸ๐Ÿ’š๐ŸŒŸ๐ŸŒŸ๐Ÿ’š๐ŸŒŸ๐Ÿ’š๐ŸŒŸ

  • Steven Bonamo

    is there a way to make a more private comment? its all clean nothing bad…im a writer of film script and id like to ask something concerning that nothing sleezy or bad…. thanks Dia

  • Rizvi Sarmad

    I wish Chinese people thought me this in university but pha pha is very common here ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

  • Alexander Sergeyev

    Thank you, that was very interesting! From what you've described Chinese social culture is similar to Russian ๐Ÿ™‚

  • spaciousgalaqxy

    Please can someone help me understand. I have a Chinese friend who asked to visit our family this summer. My mother said it wouldn't be a good time since I am sick. We have not heard from the friend since and my mother reaches out with no response. Is this part of Chinese culture? What is wrong?

  • John Daniels

    Just saw this. Will look for more. I am planning upon visiting Fushun in October. Just waiting on my visa. Any travel asvise?

  • anonomus chase

    you forgot spitting food all over the table and making loud noise is normal behavior what ever is polite in a civilized society just do the opposite like push everyone aside and grab all the foodย  as if it was your last meal seems to be normal in china cut in front of everyone else to buy a train ticket act as if Chinese are disposable people and know one isย allowed to be specialย  china has a new social credit score to separate the crude from the civilized eventually they will exterminate the undesirable or put them in prison and sell there organs to the ritch.

  • Doug Gerber

    Good tips. I'm always interested in learning cultural norms of different countries, especially asian countries. Not that I'll ever get to go there.

  • Kapioleilanionalanielua

    I am born and raised in Hawaii. Honolulu has a very high Asian influence, both Chinese and Japanese. There are always a few elderly Chinese people always waiting at my bus stop and I just noticed the other day how they do not wait in line. They always push up to the front ahead of the line. I think people just let it happen because they are elderly, but I did not realize it was something normal for them to do. In America, it is considered rude to cut in line of course, but Honolulu is a diverse city with many cultures, so I think a lot of the American culture is not applicable here.

  • Queen Nefi

    So I am moving to China tomorrow and all I can say is THANK YOU. you have made all of the information I have been accumulating just so much more concise and understandable. Thank you so much for the help

  • ๆž—ๆ–‡ๆ–Œ

    You told a lot of things about Chinese cultural, that's true but pretty old. Thins are on going changed. For me and my driends around, we dislike that style of sham. I would like recommend foreigners, if you wanna make friends in China, just enjoy the time with Chinese, whateve did, chat, eat or drink, definetely a fun people is popular in China

  • Norton Edwards

    No, u're not very correct. If u hug chineSe friends or even a grandma? Probably grandma's super super stiff but in her heart she's feeling warm.

  • Nick Name

    i used to live in China for awhile, about 10 years ago, and you remind me of my ex-chinese girlfriend there, we've been together for about a year, I'm in Korea now but i still think of her and miss her sometime.

  • J C

    Bumping and pushing is too be expected in a country housing 1/5 of the world's population. Westerners think it's rude that when they are bumped into and don't receive an apology. The Chinese think it's rude to get upset about something that should be expected.

    However, the Chinese are a people full of contradictions. As a foreigner, I'm expected to be super polite. When I act the same the Chinese (which wouldn't be a problem if I were Chinese) I get the stink eye.

    When I'm super polite, I never receive the same politeness in return. I open the door for an old lady and she thanks me and tells me what a gentleman I am and how polite foreigners are then she walks through the next set of doors and lets them slam in my face.

    TIC

    This Is China

  • Alex Marvel

    The VPN doesn't work totally well now in China, cause they are banned from visiting the foreign website like youtube and BBC news, mostly for political reasons, but there is still something you could use in China, like the FastStunnel, which is an add-in for chrome browser, for my experience, it works fine untill now.

  • Charley Hou

    As for dinner etiquette, you should have mentioned about toasting. It is common for a person of younger age or lower position to propose a toast to an older or more important person. They click the drink cups, and younger people should place their cups a little bit lower than then the older or important. When drinking wine or baijjiu, younger people should finish drinking first and say "Xian gan wei jin(I finish the drink first to show respect)", then after the older person finish drinking, fill up his or her cup. As for paying the bill, we actually don't fight like the way you drescibed. Usually, whoever hosting the dinner party should be paying for the bill dicscreetly. One last word for westerner travellers, we don't give tips, because the waiters and waitresses are paid by the restaurant owners. So just don't feel guilty for not leaving a tip.

  • Yiqing Liu

    I'm Chinese, I don't know why I am here watching this video about something that I have been so familiar with. But whatever Dia mentioned in the video was so true and down to earth. Thumbs up for Dia. Love your videos.

  • K121

    Iโ€™m adopted from China and Iโ€™m finally able to visit for my 16th birthday this upcoming summer. I feel soooo out of touch from my natural culture and I hope to learn a lot

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